A couple of months back our daughter insisted that I read the book that she had just finished reading. The name of the book is not that important (The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid, if you simply must know). What is important is that this insistence of hers, on us also partaking some experience that she cherishes, is becoming a regular feature. What is the big deal about this you may ask?
Wow! Your best so far Shantanu! Perhaps bcos it’s more relatable and I could see myself in your shoes. How dear are those moments when our child asks us to “do things together”. Never ever say “later”. Grab those moments right then, with both hands and with abandon. Mazaa aa gaya Vijay babu!
First- congratulations to the proud parents and THE graduate - graduation is a lovely milestone and look forward to hearing about her continued capers !! Second -Parent child paradigm very well articulated Shantanu !! I also think it is a full circle - and parent kid relationships these days seem to be between equals vs parents having the upper hand..
Thanks, Sailaja … will also pass on your wishes to the graduate. Relationship of equals - you nailed it - thanks to, and in no small measure, the adaptive ability of our generation.
You have expressed very well on what's a reality in today's times ; as well as the technique which you discovered by accident but are now practicing consciously . It's a very relatable situation and hence awesome insights .
Thanks much, Swapneel! Kids don’t realise that it’s equal, if not more, hard work to live up to being a good parent than it is for them to live up to being a good kid ... till they become parents ... and the cycle continues.
Let me first begin by sending my heartiest congratulations to the young woman that Dhun has become n also the congratulations to you & V cause u both have also graduated in your role as parents so it's an achievement for all the 3 of you.
Now for this piece, absolutely master piece (atleast from the ones you have written so far) cause though not a parent myself but have been a witness to parents and their teens in my very own close circle n could relate to everything in your article while watching this new show of versus their teens and vice versa. It also reminded me of my own journey of rebillion years with my own parents to being the most closest with them after those teen years had passed away. We all think we are inventing a new wheel, but this wheel has been invented decades ago, but with every generation, we feel it's a new one n that's where begins yet another chapter of parents n their teenagers.
The movies you mentioned here Little Women & Call me by your name, knew they were two brilliant ones and not to be missed. Am so glad to see you mention them here.
Once again Congratulations to Dhun, beneath all her partying (that we got to see) is a very, very smart, sensible and emotional young woman n it's says a lot.
Whoa whoa whoa!!! Am touched by your comment, Bhagya. Thank you so much. Will pass on your wishes to Dhun. You make a very good point of the fact that every generation thinks they are inventing a new wheel of parenting, while the reality is that it has been in motion for many many years. In that sense one only needs to be updated and sensitive to the zeitgeist while raising the next generation - which I think our parents did a stellar job of, so that our generation can continue the good work. Thanks once again for your detailed feedback. Appreciate it.
Very well described , I lack your sense of penetration into the finer moments of the relationship between D and you , wish I could express myself about my boys !
Thanks, Avinash! Guess my writing compensates for my lack of being able to express vocally. Also, emotions and sentiments flow when the subject matter is close to - actually a part of - my heart.
First of all Hearty Congratulations to D for doing so well and making us all proud and wishing her the best for her next journey.
Loved this article...you are getting awesome with every article (though I haven't yet read all of them😜) But one day i will. For us the journey of teenager has just started and i can already see some sparks.
Greatest piece so far…love it! Of course, I have reasons to like this piece a tad bit extra & u know why. But honestly, it’s such a great insight into parenting. Each to his own but everything u’ve said here makes so much sense👍👍👍
Of course I know the reasons. And of course I knew you would say it’s your favourite piece. After all it’s about your favourite … just favourite - not calling her niece as that would make you an aunt … which you would take offence to. So yes, the thought of WWSS (what would Sumi say) did cross my mind while writing! Relieved that I didn’t give you cannon fodder too launch into me one more time. 😜
Wow! Your best so far Shantanu! Perhaps bcos it’s more relatable and I could see myself in your shoes. How dear are those moments when our child asks us to “do things together”. Never ever say “later”. Grab those moments right then, with both hands and with abandon. Mazaa aa gaya Vijay babu!
Thanks, Mandar! You’re so right when you says never ever say later …
What a treat! Took my time to soak in every word. “You got me all misty eyed!”
Thanks, Gopal. Am short on words …
First- congratulations to the proud parents and THE graduate - graduation is a lovely milestone and look forward to hearing about her continued capers !! Second -Parent child paradigm very well articulated Shantanu !! I also think it is a full circle - and parent kid relationships these days seem to be between equals vs parents having the upper hand..
Thanks, Sailaja … will also pass on your wishes to the graduate. Relationship of equals - you nailed it - thanks to, and in no small measure, the adaptive ability of our generation.
Very well written Shantu.... I can exactly relate to each n everything
Thanks, Reshma! ❤️
You have expressed very well on what's a reality in today's times ; as well as the technique which you discovered by accident but are now practicing consciously . It's a very relatable situation and hence awesome insights .
Thanks much, Swapneel! Kids don’t realise that it’s equal, if not more, hard work to live up to being a good parent than it is for them to live up to being a good kid ... till they become parents ... and the cycle continues.
Let me first begin by sending my heartiest congratulations to the young woman that Dhun has become n also the congratulations to you & V cause u both have also graduated in your role as parents so it's an achievement for all the 3 of you.
Now for this piece, absolutely master piece (atleast from the ones you have written so far) cause though not a parent myself but have been a witness to parents and their teens in my very own close circle n could relate to everything in your article while watching this new show of versus their teens and vice versa. It also reminded me of my own journey of rebillion years with my own parents to being the most closest with them after those teen years had passed away. We all think we are inventing a new wheel, but this wheel has been invented decades ago, but with every generation, we feel it's a new one n that's where begins yet another chapter of parents n their teenagers.
The movies you mentioned here Little Women & Call me by your name, knew they were two brilliant ones and not to be missed. Am so glad to see you mention them here.
Once again Congratulations to Dhun, beneath all her partying (that we got to see) is a very, very smart, sensible and emotional young woman n it's says a lot.
Whoa whoa whoa!!! Am touched by your comment, Bhagya. Thank you so much. Will pass on your wishes to Dhun. You make a very good point of the fact that every generation thinks they are inventing a new wheel of parenting, while the reality is that it has been in motion for many many years. In that sense one only needs to be updated and sensitive to the zeitgeist while raising the next generation - which I think our parents did a stellar job of, so that our generation can continue the good work. Thanks once again for your detailed feedback. Appreciate it.
Heartwarming... but I hope you got her permission to share such reflections...
Dare I otherwise ;-)
Very well described , I lack your sense of penetration into the finer moments of the relationship between D and you , wish I could express myself about my boys !
Thanks, Avinash! Guess my writing compensates for my lack of being able to express vocally. Also, emotions and sentiments flow when the subject matter is close to - actually a part of - my heart.
First of all Hearty Congratulations to D for doing so well and making us all proud and wishing her the best for her next journey.
Loved this article...you are getting awesome with every article (though I haven't yet read all of them😜) But one day i will. For us the journey of teenager has just started and i can already see some sparks.
Thanks, Chetan! No stress on not having read all my pieces. Will pass on your wishes to Dhun.
And all the best in dealing with the teen in your life. 😉
Greatest piece so far…love it! Of course, I have reasons to like this piece a tad bit extra & u know why. But honestly, it’s such a great insight into parenting. Each to his own but everything u’ve said here makes so much sense👍👍👍
Of course I know the reasons. And of course I knew you would say it’s your favourite piece. After all it’s about your favourite … just favourite - not calling her niece as that would make you an aunt … which you would take offence to. So yes, the thought of WWSS (what would Sumi say) did cross my mind while writing! Relieved that I didn’t give you cannon fodder too launch into me one more time. 😜
WWSS…luv it🤣🤣🤣